So I started GMing in this huge sandbox world-bulding i’ve prepared in the last 6 month, and at the beginning everything was fine and I was able to start a campaign with 4 players that I know for a while. One day, I ended up inviting this friend, who’s a really nice guy by the way but which turned out to be a pain during the game. The guy is bi-sexual, which is totally ok but I precise it because it will be relevant to explain why he is currently ruining our campaign.
So the first time he came at home to prepare his character, the guy insisted heavily to be able to play this exantric pansexual elf noble with this 20 pages long backstory he made. I was fine with that, but I warned him that we were playing in a realistic medieval world, and that his sexuality will not be perceived well especially as a noble, but still, I was thinking it could be interesting to add a bit of flavor and that I could use this in my plot for the future, so I ended up telling yes. What an error… My players are part of a mercenary company which have been hired by an Empire on the edge of collapsing, victim of a big invasion in the east, and corrupted in its heart, with a lot of political intrigues.
But that, this player don’t care, as he spent all his first game ignoring the plot to pursue his own goals, ignoring the company rules, and taking more time to develop his own lore instead. Speaking about his lore, the all thing seem to be about his sexuality, the guy his trying to fuck every male PC/NPC that he encounter, and push hard to describe his romance with a human noble that is completely irrelevant with the company. He also engage in awkward sex role play, where he describe precisely how he fucked that peasant he met last night in the tavern.
At beginning, I was so confused that I just letted him do his stuff, trying to hook him back in the story from time to time, but after one month, I start to notice that my other players are getting really troubled by his behavior, some of them even telling me that he his ruining their fun. Let’s be clear, I’ve nothing against RP romance in my games, even if it’s gay, but we are all getting tired of being always pulled out of the campaign by this guy who play with us like if we are on one of this creepy internet sex RPG forum.
Damn, there his a WAR going on, tons of political intrigues and an entire Empire is about to explode, we don’t care about those 5 sex scene he describe (I’m not even kiding, he played 5 sex scenes in our last 3 hours game), we don’t care about all those LGBT questionning he push in each game, we are in a medieval world, the concept of LGBT is non-existing, so why always trying to talk hours about that? Last time I tryed to talk to him about that, he started being angry about me forbiding him to play HIS character he took so much hours to handcraft, at the end almost accusing me of being homophobic. Problem is that this guy is really a good friend outside of the game, I don’t want to destroy our friendship, but there is no way I can continue to invite him to play.
What should I do? Did someone had the same kind of problem?